Does it seem like 5 minutes ago that your child was a baby? Of course they cried – sometimes alot – but there was no doubt as to who was the boss: you.
If you feel like you are living with a toddler with all the ambition of Bill Gates and the social skills of the average tornado, this article will help you.
Issues of this type are not insurmountable – read on for some down-to-earthtips.
bWhy Do Problems Arise
<b>Dont assumethat, just because toddlers can walk – and later on talk – that their understanding of other children
and people is advancing at the same pace. Not so.
Children of this age are naturally self-centred. There is no point pushing them to understand how you or anyone else feels. They are inacapable of empathy
bResearch has shown that youngsters under the age of 2 are never intentionally badly behaved. Concepts such as right and wrong are completely alien to them.
bEven in children over the age of 2<b>many apparently naughty behaviors can often be put down to frustration, illness etc.
bHitting and other aggressive behavior is an example of bad toddler behavior that is not usually malicious. Never premeditated, it can be thought of as a spur of the moment expression of frustration. As adults, we have all made thoughtless comments that we instantly regretted. And this brings us to a very important point…
Many difficult incidents can be traced back to toddlers inability to say what they really mean and feel. Imagine how difficult life must be when you cant express yourself properly – no wonder they get so tired and frustrated.
bHow To Overcome Toddler Problems
bGive positive instructions – this is very important. Along with limited verbal expression is limited understanding. For example, telling a toddler Dont eat that pebble is unhelpful because they could well only grasp that you want him to eat the pebble (dont being more abstract).
It is much better to say Put the pebble down, perhaps showing him how to do it.
bDivert and distract – children under 4are so easily distracted that you can turn it to your advantage. It is a wonder to watch a tantrum change into a fit of giggles within 30 seconds of your best puppy dog impression.
bStrategic ignoring is one of the best tried-and-tested tactics in the fight against toddler behavior problems. This is because young children want your attention more than anything else. Responding to a screaming fit with a stony stare out of the window or time out is more effective than you might think.
bAvoidshouting and name calling.Above all, never use physical punishment, such as spanking. All of these teach your toddler nothing about controlling their behavior. Physical punishment will only teach that hitting is the way to resolve your childs problems.